Dear DV8 "'My partner and I have an age gap I am 20 years her senior. We've discussed if this may pose a problem with us swinging and how we might have a harder time finding couples to swing with. We know not everyone is going to be open to the idea of swinging with a couple with as much of an age gap as we have... but is that really a deal breaker?" Cali-ride - California Dear Cali-ride "There are millions of swingers worldwide; all with a different idea of what they're looking for in potential partners. You will find some that have a select age bracket that they're looking for, and your ages may or may not be in it. It really is no different than someones preference for weight or hair color. It's just a preference and most swingers are typically open and honest about what they're interested in. However, there are millions of swingers. More often than not, they (including myself) will connect with couples based on their personality rather than their age. So no, for most, it will not be a deal breaker, especially with a positive attitude." - Mrs DV8 "This is a good one, because I think every couple runs into the age dilemma in the lifestyle. It hardly comes up in conversation when couples first decide to try swinging. This is something every couple should prepare for, yet most couples rarely discuss age until it hits you head on. Most assume everyone they come in contact with will be their age and that's that. Couples usually post their age preferences on their profiles on the various lifestyle sites, problem solved. You are never truly prepared for what lies ahead when meeting couples whose age is vastly different than yours. In our encounters, we've strayed from our age boundaries more times then we can count. It was never a deal breaker when we really liked the couple. Maturity was always the deciding factor when it came to younger women. Older men are a matter of her taste. The lifestyle is about you, and age is just a number. Think of it as, you as a couple, offer the best of both worlds. An older distinguished man and a younger more energetic female. Together you are a power couple. Offering a little more variety than most couples. So you're not a deal breaker, but a catch!" - Mr DV8 Have a question for ask dv8? Let us know #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #askdv8

Deviate Network Revamps Website, Adds Features NEW YORK — The Deviate Network has announced that their website, TheDeviateNetwork.com, has been revamped, offering “new and improved” features and “everything you need to know about alternative lifestyles.” “With a combined 16 years in the lifestyle, six of that as veteran promoters, The Deviate Network hosts events throughout the East Coast and participates in numerous swingers 101 seminars and roundtable discussions,” a Deviate Network spokesperson said. “They have also created the world’s first erotic game exclusively for swingers by swingers: DV8 Dare, Swinger Edition.” Other sites of The Deviate Network include DeviateParties.com — which features sex toy parties — and DevierBoutique.com, which features the company’s DV8 Dare product line of adult party games. “We felt it was time to put everything in one place,” a spokesperson for the Deviate Network said. “Our goal is to embrace the alternative lifestyles by promoting education, safety and awareness." The revamped TheDeviateNetwork.com site features Deviate Home parties, the Deviate Essentials product line, a lifestyle blog and information on upcoming lifestyle events. Sex toy reviews will soon be added. "We are most excited to announce the newest column, Ask DV8, where readers are able to ask anonymous and personal questions about the lifestyle, to be answered by Mr. & Mrs. DV8 and our team of experienced educators from multiple genres,” according to The Deviate Group. “This column includes educational material for those wishing to learn about the swinging lifestyle, as well as BDSM safety tips.” For more information on The Deviate Network, follow them on Twitter.

PHOTO: WWW.MAUROGRIGOLLO.COM The condom company ONE will release a line of condoms this fall that comes in 56—that's right, 56—sizes that mix and match different lengths and widths. This includes condoms that are both larger and smaller than you can currently get in stores, as well as a whole lot of medium-sized ones. Their smallest length is 4.92 inches, which breaks from previous industry standards requiring a 6.69-inch minimum. The longest ones are 8.19 inches, and the width ranges from 1.77 to 2.52 inches. (For what it's worth, research has found that the average erect penis length is 5.19 inches, so it makes sense that plenty of men would be smaller.) "Research consistently shows that many men avoid condoms because they do not fit or are uncomfortable," reads an announcement on ONE's website for its "myONE" condoms. Some studies have found that many men have complaints about standard-size condoms, whether it's that they're too short, too long, too loose, or too tight. And sinceregular-sized condoms are 7.9 inches long, many men may find them too big. At the same time, though, according to the Condom Depot Learning Center, it's pretty uncommon for the condoms available at your local drugstore to be too small. If a regular one doesn't do it, an extra large will accommodate 2.25 inches around and 8.1 inches long. Plus, men who say their condoms hurt their ability to get erections are probably BS-ing, since research has found that condoms don't increase a man's chances of experiencing erectile dysfunction. But hey, penises do come in all shapes and sizes. Anything that can get guys to practice safer sex is a win in our book. Source: GLAMOUR #blogdv8 #couplesrelationships #dv8lifestyle #relationships #sexuality #foreplaytips #sextips

Single men please save yourselves!! Read this. First off guys, I was single in the lifestyle and kudos to you all for trying. I simply didn't have the patience for it. Rejection was never an issue, but begging for sex was. I had no idea what to say or do, "Hey bro can I fuck your wife, I got a big dick" didn't seem to fly in my mind. Lets start at the beginning: Get a profile on a lifestyle / swinger / adult dating site. Adultfriendfinder, Kasidie, Swingers Date Club aka SDC. Craigslist / Backpage not recommended, unless your looking for a hooker. First of all, pay for it. If you're going all in then go all in. The lifestyle isn't cheap and no one likes a cheapskate. Guys you're not going to get laid for free. It won't happen and you know it, so don't fight it. If you do find what your looking for, you'll be expected to pay for the room, drinks ect. again nothing is free. Put your best foot forward, not your dick. Once you've created a profile, post some good (classy) pictures of yourself. A face pic helps, but you can always create a private gallery if you wish to hide them. A couple or single female WILL ask to see them. Don't say "I have to find one"; it's a turn off. Have them ready to open upon request. NO DICK PICS. Put them in your private gallery, as with face pics, ONLY show them when you're asked. Add lots of content; talk about yourself, your likes and dislikes, fantasies ect. Do not write "I'll fuck your wife for three hours and eat her pussy for three more" Keep in mind in most cases the male half of the couple is reading it and really doesn't care that you're a super stud. It's better to write "I am looking to try something new, have fantasized about a threesome, I really enjoy oral sex" First contact: Once your profile is ready to go, don't be afraid to make contact with a couple or single female. Scout the site and look for a couple or female that catches your eye. This part is critical. READ THEIR ENTIRE PROFILE. Do not contact a couple or single female that states "no single males" or "not interested in single males" Just don't do it! Make sure you know what 'they' are looking for and that you are a match before making contact. Actual messages from single men "Very sexy..maybe i can be a 3rd wheel for new friends and fun,)" Strike! This profile had no pictures at all, not really very captivating. "Hello I'm Scott, how are ya'll?" Strike! Had a pic, but not working for us, could've put in some effort. "Hi my name is Mike I'm a laid back guy that's looking to meet more people in the area from the site, I saw your profile and you both seem cool. I'd love to talk more, let me know if your interested in getting to know each other more." Home Run! Interesting with face and body pics, this guy has a shot. A. Put some thought into what you are going to say. B. Attach a face picture to your message or have your gallery open, C. Don't ask to see more pictures of her, or tell them how hot she is. Trust me, they know. D. Be subtle and intelligent with your words. Don't be a tool. E. Do not be afraid of rejection or in most cases no response at all, move on. Getting in to Lifestyle Events aka swinger parties, gang bangs etc. Have an in: If you really want to get in, you have to have an in. It's that simple. We host couples only lifestyle aka swinger events, yet we still have single men attend them. What? Doesn't make sense. Right? The men who attend our events are quiet, respectful and are usually spoken for before the event even begins. The reason is, they usually have a woman by their side or are busy socializing with a couple. They are hardly ever alone. How they got in? In most cases they were once part of a couple and then respectively asked if they could attend solo. This really is based on their actions while attending events as a couple. Were they respectful? Social? Have a good attitude? These are all things that a couple or event host considers when taking a chance on a single male, and why they were invited back. How to get in? I am not encouraging you to start pestering party hosts; not a good idea. In almost every case, you will be ignored. Look for events that allow single men. Read the details of the event, I REPEAT, READ THE DETAILS OF THE EVENT. Make sure single men are permitted before you ask. If the event allows single males, still ask. Don't sign up and expect that gives you an in. Event hosts appreciate courtesy, contact them and respectfully ask. Same as before, make sure you have your face pics open or attached. Actual message from single men "Hey how you doing I was interested and was wondering how can I attend my first party something I've never done before and was hoping that you guys gave me an opportunity" This one got in. He sent a respectful message with no presumptions. He had clear pictures of himself (no dick pics) and his personality profile. If your invited in: Follow the rules, dress classy, be respectful, social, don't over indulge and be sure to thank the hosts. Once you're in you're in: Once you've made it in to a lifestyle event and you've done the right thing, you will most likely be invited back to the next one. The other perks are that you will most likely connect with couples and single females, who have their own 'ins' with more exclusive parties and events. Source: THE DEVIATE NETWORK #dv8lifestyle #swinglifestyle #askdv8 #swinging #relationships #sexuality #blogdv8 #sextips #singlemen #kasidie #swingersdateclub #swingingsingles

Dear DV8 "'My best friend found out i was in the lifestyle, when i tried to talk to her about it, things became awkward. Now she barely even speaks to me, how do i explain to my friend that this is something my husband and i enjoy. And still keep our friendship?" mybffe - Massachusetts Dear mybffe "Even though we have made great advances in the lifestyle with mainstream acceptance, there is still a stigma surrounding it. Some people won't accept it because of religious values, some have their own jealousy issues, and some were raised with the belief that monogamy is the only key to a happy relationship; even offended at the thought that a person would be open to a sexual encounter outside of the marriage. In any case, only you know your best friend and why she may now feel uncomfortable around you. Is she offended? Does she think you may want to recruit her into the lifestyle? Or perhaps she just needs a little time to process this newfound information. Try having a one on one conversation with her, making it clear that the lifestyle is something that you and your partner explore together, as consensual adults. Answer any questions she may have. There are two kinds of friends; ones that will accept you and love you regardless, and ones that should remain a part of your past." - Mrs DV8 "If you're dabbling in the lifestyle or it's a regular part of your life, you always run the risk of someone finding out. How you feel about the lifestyle should reflect on how you explain what the lifestyle means to you and your husband. Since this is something you enjoy as a couple, you should convey this to your friend. Whether or not she agrees with it is irrelevant, though this is your secret you want it to be safe with her. Explain how it fits into your relationship and that if it makes you two happy she should be happy too. Tell her it's not just about sex it's about enjoying yourselves and the people associated with the lifestyle. If it hadn't affected your friendship in the past then it shouldn't in the future. Everyone still needs a little vanilla in their lives, friendship is important. A true friend will understand. " - Mr DV8 Have a question for ask dv8? Let us know #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #askdv8

Ok, that's a lie, I love porn. In fact, I may be addicted to it. Working from home reviewing sex toys and lingerie, and being active on social media with beautiful porn stars, has its' advantages. I've become quite adept at multi-tasking; namely watching porn while working. It all started as a young teen in the 80's, stumbling across a collection of Swedish Erotica. I've been hooked ever since. If you too have watched porn since the 80's, than you'll know what I'm talking about. As a disclaimer: All of these are my personal issues and why I have a love/hate relationship with the porn of today. 1. The blow jobs. When did it go from a nice long sensual meaningful blowjob, to a 'let's get this over as fast as I can and make me gag like I'm about to throw up' act? C'mon ladies! Enjoy it! Take your time and worship that erection. Slow it down and lick it. Tease him. Stop pretending that you're starving and it's the only meat you've had for weeks! (fetish videos do not apply) 2. The Directors Cut. The use of HD has some amazing benefits. However, I think Directors need to be aware that some of us watch porn on obscenely large screens, which enhances every little detail. Now, I can imagine that filming porn is not without the risk of injury; grab her thighs a little tight and you leave a bruise, sweat while you're on your back too long and you end up with heat pimples. Please please please do not focus the camera on these areas! Pan out a little, and let me see the rhythm of both participants. The last thing I want to see while I'm watching a hot girl get double teamed, is the camera fixated on her dirty feet! (Fetish videos do not apply) 3. No peeking! I think one of the biggest changes in porn through the years is the story line. I get it.. most vintage porn would try to behave like a box office hit that would end up as a fuckfest. To me, mainstream porn has become more of a 'let me model for you in this cute outfit, invite a few coworkers over to play and I'm going to keep looking to make sure you're still watching'. Ladies! I'm a voyeur. I'm still watching. Unless it's POV, there is no need to keep looking at the camera every 2 minutes to make sure. 4. I spit you not. I grew up with the notion that it was considered highly offensive to be spit on. It usually meant the person didn't like you and really wanted to get that point across. Today, it seems that every time I put on a porn, someone is dripping with spit.. somewhere or everywhere on their body. The other day the couple even spit in each others' mouth. (GAG) It is perfectly acceptable to take a strangers cock in your mouth, but really? Their saliva? Not sexy at all. Have some dignity.. just say no... Try some lube if you've had a long day and need to stay wet. I can give you some amazing recommendations. (Fetish Videos do not apply) I'm sure I could think of more.. but hot co-eds in booty shorts is on my watch list... ;) Source: THE DEVIATE NETWORK #blogdv8 #couplesrelationships #dv8lifestyle #relationships #sexuality #foreplaytips #sextips

Dear DV8 "'So far we've done a couple of threesomes with other women. But have stayed girl on girl with some light cross touching. I want to include him in the mix, but i worry about getting that flash of jealousy if i see another girl going down on him or if we go so far having sex with him.How do we deal with jealousy in swinging?" bi-gal 4 bi-gal - Ohio Dear bi-gal In swinging, there is always a risk of jealousy. However, I have a theory; You don't know until you try it. I believe that as long as you have strong communication with your partner, and he is able to read your cues and body language, your experience can be mind blowing. Know, that if you try it and don't like it, you never have to do it again. I encourage you to talk to your partner about your concerns and make sure he's willing to stop at any point that you feel uncomfortable." - Mrs DV8 - Mr DV8 "Like any situation, you never know how your going to feel until you try it. As always communication is key to any situation. That being said, does the thought of him being with another woman turn you on? Are you comfortable enough with the woman to take it to the next level. These are things to consider and discuss with your partner. Make sure she is comfortable as well, many fail to consider the other parties involved and how they feel about the situation. She may not be comfortable taking things to the next level or could be in the dark about how you feel about her playing with your man. Talk to her one on one, discuss setting boundaries and comfort levels." Have a question for ask dv8? Let us know #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #askdv8

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Dear DV8 "'I've thought about swinging and kind of attempted to get my wife to. But we never seriously considered it. She wants to swing, we thought it might be quite an experience. I guess we are worried we might run into people we work with." Thinking about it in CT - Connecticut Dear Thinking about it This question has come up at every single panel we've ever participated in, and is one of the most popular concerns of couples curious about the lifestyle. When you attend swinger events in your area, chances are that you WILL eventually run into someone that you know. If this happens, keep something in mind; they are there too. This lifestyle has millions of members. Swingers are discrete and like their privacy as much as you like yours." - Mrs DV8 "This happens more then you may think, If she wants to swing then it's worth checking out. Being nervous and having second thoughts is common with any new experience. If you've gotten to the stage of wanting to do it, then it might be worth taking the extra step. Running into people you may know is not only a possibility but a given. In our experience it's always been a positive experience to see a familiar face. The most common misconception about the lifestyle is that it's all about sex. It's more a state of mind more then anything. Having friends that share the same mindset, make way for some pretty interesting discussions by the water cooler. - Mr DV8 Have a question for ask dv8? Let us know #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #askdv8

Use your foreplay skills to your advantage and make her crazy like never before. When it comes to your sex life, you need to be more creative and experimental. Sex should be all about love, lust and passion. At times it should be fun, playful but it should never be boring for you and your partner. Trust us, you can go a long way with this. Author of Sex Academy, Dr Pam Spurr says, "For no holds barred pleasure the best foreplay really teases your partner increasing their desire meaning they're far more likely to climax," says Dr Pam Spurr, author of Sex Academy tosex.sofeminine.co.uk. Sex should never be done in a fixed manner, there should always be time for teasing and pleasing. Use your foreplay skills to your advantage and make her crazy like never before. Here are four foreplay tricks that you might want to try tonight: Sensation experiments: You might have heard about hot and cold sensation but it’s time to give it a try. An icy tongue on the tip of her nipples or a hot kiss on her belt line is something you must go for. Try some food mix, apply some chocolate cake on your partner’s face and den relish licking it. Apply some honey on her breast and neck and hear here go crazy, as you taste her. Try something new Routine is good in daily life, but not when it comes to your sex life. Try something out of your way. Get kinky try some new sex toys, get out of your comfort zone. The surprise element is very impactful and builds up excitement. Oral for both: The main key is teasing when you talk about oral. Don’t attack directly on the goodies. Get on your knees, look at her sensually and part her legs, slowly lick her inner thigh. Blow over her clit, this creates sensation and builds up anticipation. If you like getting oral, be ready to pleasure your guy as well. Drop warm kisses on his inner thighs, touch him and stroke him softly. Make dirty sounds, use your mouth and hand on his body as much as you can. Take it to the next level: How about blindfold? This might sound odd, but try being super-kinky and take foreplay to a new level. Blindfold each-other, take turns and explore each other like never before. You can try some kisses, caresses, spanking and indulging in a hot shower with your partner. Source: DECCAN CHRONICLE #blogdv8 #couplesrelationships #dv8lifestyle #relationships #sexuality #foreplaytips #sextips

Dear DV8 "My partner wants to get into the lifestyle, but i am nervous. I feel like i am holding him back because of my own insecurities. Should i do it anyway?" Panic in the lifestyle - New York Dear Panic "The lifestyle is an exploration of the sexual boundaries in your relationship and is something that should be shared as a couple to enhance your fantasies. If your not comfortable with the idea, then you need to put on the breaks. The lifestyle is not a one sided affair, you both need to be comfortable with the lifestyle before you proceed" - Mr DV8 "Entering into anything new can be a little overwhelming and scary. It's never a good idea to do something that you're uncomfortable with, especially when it comes to swinging. The lifestyle can be an amazing experience, but if you enter into swinging before your concerns are addressed, then your experience will not be a positive one. The idea of swinging has already been brought up, so why not continue the conversation. Try and find the root of your insecurities; , communicate any hesitation with your partner. - Mrs DV8 Our take? Discuss this with your partner. If you decide to move forward, set some ground rules. When you're both ready, you can start as slowly as you are comfortable, perhaps by attending off-premise Meet and Greets. If you still feel uncomfortable, retreat together as a couple. Have a question for ask dv8? Let us know #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #askdv8

Having sex with other couples can be really hot. But the two of you MUST be on the same page. The swinging lifestyle is nothing new. The concept has been around for years. The only difference is that people have started talking about it more openly. If you and your honey would like to get a little kinky and experiment with this sexual adventure, you're probably looking for a way to start your journey. In this article, we'll help you get started with your swinger couples adventure. So how should you go about being a new swinger couple in the swinging lifestyle? Here are seven things that you must discuss and do before you start swinging. 1. Figure out why you want to swing ... The first step is to open up about your thoughts with your partner. When a couple decides to get into this lifestyle, both partners should first openly communicate their feelings to each other to create a comfortable atmosphere. There can be many reasons for taking up a swinging lifestyle. You both might want to experience the pleasure of a shared sexual relationship or simply want to spice up your intimate life with new adventures. But if you're looking for ways to mend the flaws in your relationship, you'll be left disappointed. The swinging lifestyle is only for healthy couples looking for sheer pleasure. 2. ... and how do you want to swing. There are plenty of options to explore swinging lifestyle. You can begin with locally organized swinger parties or jump to lavish swinger cruises. The choice is totally yours. It would depend on your budget, preferences, and the degree of excitement you're looking for. You can choose to hook up with opposite, as well as a same sex people. The chances are you may be looking forward to play with a few of your fantasies that you may have never explored before. 3. Set some ground rules. If you're new to this lifestyle, it is important to set some rules for each other before indulging. For example, if you are both going to a swinging and either one of you wants to leave early, it should be perfectly fine (or not) for the other person to stay behind. Other rules may include factors related to being in the same room or being comfortable seeing your partner having intimacy with the same sex. Make sure you talk about all these things up front. 4. Work on building up your confidence. If you want to take part in this lavish lifestyle, you should start working on your persona. People only like to pick or approach others who exhibit a great personality and confident look. Whether you're looking for a swinging partner online or at a club, make sure you display the best of your persona to attract the most people. Lots of swinging couples use fake names as an identity, and it is perfectly acceptable in the swinging world. 5. Consider meeting couples online first. If you're not sure about attending a live swinger party or joining a club initially, you can always find other not-so-open swinger couples online. It's a great place to meet others swingers. The Internet is full of online dating sites where you get to find a lot of people sharing the similar interest. All you need to is create a catchy profile, upload your photos and start your search through member profiles. 6. Plan to meet before hooking up. After you've found the couples or individuals matching your criteria, you can talk to them on the phone or simply arrange a meeting. It is ideal to meet the potential swinger couples the first time first, so you can see whether they look or talk the same as they did online. If you don't feel a connection, simply move on. 7. Eventually, check out a swinging club. There are probably more swingers club in your vicinity than you would have imagined. A quick online search will help you know the exact location. A bit of online research will also help you know how to participate in such events. If you're interested in being a part of such clubs or parties, always make sure you dress up nicely and look good. Also, try to show up on time so you don't miss out on any fun. Adopting a swinging lifestyle is not difficult, if you and your partner are aware of what's the course of the action. Whether it's going to a swinger party, a swingers club or indulging in a swinger cruise, it can give you the most amazing moments of your life. If you and your partner wish to be on the hit list of swinger couples, you will need to make sure that you understand your desires and let others do the same. Do not keep any expectations from this lifestyle, and keep yourself open and available at all times to make the most of your swinging lifestyle. The swinger lifestyle should be fun and exciting. It should only be pursued by couples who are truly enjoying themselves. Source: yourtango.com #blogdv8 #couplesrelationships #swinglifestyle #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinging #sexuality