role play /ˈrōl ˌplā/ act out or perform the part of a person or character #DV8DARE. #ROLEPLAY, #DEVIERBOUTIQUE, #DATENIGHT, #SEXY, #NEXTLEVEL, #DV8ROLEPLAY, #ADULTROLEPLAYING, #DV8DARE Role Play is becoming increasingly popular in our modern culture. It awakens our fantasies and allows us to act them out in a sexual manner. Browse any porn site today and you are guaranteed to encounter a multitude of role play videos and genres depicting every scenario imaginable. Role Playing empowers you to break free from the mainstream missionary style, and allows you to become someone else for the night. Why Role Play? Over the years, long term relationships have a tendency to become stale; it’s common. It’s so easy to get caught up in everyday responsibilities: kids, bills, jobs etc., that we forget how to be sexy. We put romance on the back burner, despite our craving for intimacy and excitement in the bedroom. It’s human nature to wonder what it’s like to be or to be with someone else. Creating sensuous scenarios in the privacy of our own minds keeps us free from judgement. So why not bring those fantasies to light and share them with your significant other. If date night has become nothing more than dinner and obligatory sex, then it might be time for some Role Play! But how do you introduce it in your relationship and make it successful? We’ve put together some top tips for you! Getting started: Introduce the idea to your partner: Be direct! One of the most important aspects of a successful role play relationship, is the ability to communicate. While you may feel intimidated at the idea, you need to be able to talk truthfully about what turns you on. Ask them how they feel about sharing your fantasy with you. Remember, your partner cannot read your mind. It’s time to break out of routine. Who knows? You may be pleasantly surprised at their reaction. Discuss your fantasies: Have you ever been on a long flight and daydreamed about the hot stewardess giving you a lap dance and undressing you seductively? How about your sexy boss who demands you work overtime; meeting in the boardroom to make you ‘earn’ a raise? Dreams can come true! One of the advantages of being in a committed relationship, is that there is usually a higher level of comfort and trust. Being confident to talk openly about fantasies, turn-ons, being able to be silly and show our vulnerabilities; allows us to build a stronger connection and bond with each other. Discussing sexy scenarios in the morning can have you contemplating the dirty details all day long. The anticipation of something new in the bedroom is exhilarating! It’s like mental foreplay. Break through your Inhibitions: By now the hard part is over! Or is it? Now that you’re one step closer to fulfilling your erotic appetite, what happens if you suddenly feel shy, introverted. What if your role play idea feels awkward? It’s natural! Go with it! A temporary lack of self-confidence is a result of self imposed restrictions we place on ourselves. When trying anything new, it is reasonable to feel a little uneasy in the beginning. Breathe! Remember the benefits! You’re not trying out for an academy award. This is your life partner and you’re in this together. Broaden your horizons and slowly step out of your comfort zone. Put your plan into action: Role Playing is a turn-on. It allows you to act out your desires with your partner and adds to the eroticism in your relationship. Fantasies of school-girls, seducing the boss, trading sex for favors; subjects once considered taboo, can now be turned into a steamy date night. The key to a successful role play is to really get into character. Don’t worry about creating the perfect scenario; let it shape itself. Together, decide on the scene; the characters, buy a sexy costume, use props and be creative. Break out of stereotypes: Are you typically the dominant in the relationship? Try being the submissive for a change of pace. Now that you’re ready to let the fun begin, how do you create a scenario? It’s easy! Deviate Essentials has done it for you. It offers a new way to role play with their DV8 Dare™ Erotic Coupon Book. This book gives you 12 of the top sexy scenarios to try at home, and features 24 scenes from mild to wild to start you on your way. Remember: DO talk this through with your partner. DO allow yourself to slowly grow beyond your comfort zone DO respect your partners’ boundaries DO reflect on the experience and discuss how you can expand on them for next time #ADULTROLEPLAYING #DATENIGHT #DEVIERBOUTIQUE #DV8DARE #DV8DARE. #ROLEPLAY #DV8ROLEPLAY #NEXTLEVEL #SEXY Author ~ Mrs DV8 Source ~ devierboutique.com/blog/resource-guide-to-role-playing

This is a great question for us to answer! Our club was on the forefront of the Black Ring movement back in 2013, when we hosted the very first Black Ring party with the support of the popular swingers website, Kasidie. Wearing the Black Ring on your right hand signifies that you are in the “swing” or Alternative Lifestyle This allows others to spot fellow lifestylers. We’ll usually wear them when we are out as a couple or with other swingers; so it’s not a coincidence that we are all wearing black rings on the same hand. This makes it easier for other lifestylers to spot us in the crowd, especially at public swinger meet and greets. It is also a great way to spot a 'hot date' you're meeting for the first time. There is no specific finger to wear it on, though it is most popular to wear it on the ring finger or the pinky. My Wife wears hers on her ring finger as i prefer my pinky finger. As you can see from the photo below, taken at one of our events, it’s a matter of preference. Image source: Deviate Network Black Ring Party March 8th 2013 That being said; some people who wear the black ring on the middle finger signifies they are asexual, not necessarily a 'swinger'. We wear our black rings nearly everyday and encourage our members in the lifestyle to do the same. Author: Mr & Mrs DV8 Swingers Clubs and Parties on Kasidie.com Source: quora.com/profile/Deviate-Network #askdv8, #dv8lifestyle, #kasidie, #lifestyleeducation, #safeswinging, #sexrelationships, #swingerseducation, #swinging, #blackring

Sex and relationships writer, Paisley Gilmour, explores the wonderful world of roleplay sex. For anyone who loves the idea of exciting sexual experiences but is a little awkward when it comes to doing it IRL (*raises hand*), BDSM and roleplay fantasy sex can feel intimidating. What if you have no ideas? What if you feel… well, stupid? What if your partner laughs at you? Sidenote: if they do, they’re trash. Luckily, like with any sex, roleplay fantasy sex requires a lot of emotional preparation and discussion before you actually do anything. Awkward people rejoice! I asked three sex experts for their valuable advice on how to roleplay during sex. They shared their tips for having the best, safest roleplay sex and gave some pretty unique fantasy and BDSM roleplay ideas. How to safely incorporate BDSM roleplay and fantasy into partnered sex Figure out what you want to get out of your roleplay fantasy sex Before any actual BDSM or roleplay fantasy sex happens, you need to have a good old think about what you want to get out of the experience. It’s fine if at the start you don’t have a clear idea of roles, scenario or fantasy you want to act out. But identifying your own desires will help to inform how the roleplay unfolds (and alleviate some of the pressure/potential awkwardness). Think about the power dynamic that most turns you on to help you figure out which specific roles you could try. If you’re not sure or are lacking imagination, don’t worry. Reading erotic fiction always helps me figure out my sexual fantasies – they’re often scenarios I’ve never considered myself. If the very thought of your partner bossing you around and telling you exactly what to do is arousing, Annabelle Knight, sex and relationship expert for Lovehoney, says submissive roles are ideal for you. Or, if the idea of playing roleplay games where you’re the one in charge turns you on, flip that around and take a more dominant role. Talk about your roleplay fantasy sex ideas with your partner(s) Next, explain your BDSM roleplay ideas and fantasies to your partner(s). Be specific, and tell them exactly what you want to happen during roleplay sex. Annabelle says that if they know exactly what you’re after, it’s easier to improvise around the ‘plot’ rather than just winging it – which could lead to both of you feeling uncomfortable and not fulfilling your desires. Opening up to your partner(s) about your sexual fantasy can feel intimidating. If you’re feeling vulnerable and worried about how your partner will react, try framing it in the context of a dream. Annabelle says you phrasing it as, “I had a dream you were a police officer who handcuffed my hands behind my back and then had your way with me,” is a little easier for some to swallow than saying outright, “I want to have sex with a cop.” Encourage your partner(s) to share their fantasies, too. It’s been proven that just thinking about sex boosts our sex drives. So think of this part as verbal foreplay… Set your boundaries (and safe words) Before any roleplay fantasy sex happens, you need to get your boundary setting skills down. To have the safest, most pleasurable roleplay fantasy sex, you need to tell your partner what your limits are. Is there anything you aren’t comfortable with? Like spanking, choking, being called certain words? Communicate this clearly to your partner, so they know exactly what your boundaries are. Agreeing on safe words – that will help you communicate how you’re feeling and if you want any BDSM roleplay sex to stop – is key before you begin. Loads of experts recommend the ‘traffic light system’: ‘red’ when you want play to stop immediately, ‘amber’ when you want to pause or let your partner know you’re reaching your limit, and ‘green’ for when you’re loving what they’re doing and want more. Safety always comes first, and author of the Consent Checklist zine and sex and relationships expert Dr Meg-John Barker says that if your partner struggles to communicate, it’s a good idea for them to get some support around this before playing any roleplay games or trying BDSM. Plan your outfit, accessories and setting The next step is all about preparing for your roleplay sex fantasy. Depending on which specific roleplay games you want to play, this might involve a costume and/or accessories. If it’s your first time and the idea of dressing up is nerve-racking, start small. Annabelle says this could be as simple and easy as adding small accessories like medical gloves (my personal fave), a stethoscope, or even just a hat, to set the scene. She also strongly advises only picking clothing or costumes you’ll feel physically comfortable in. This will take some pressure off and allow you to relax into the scene (and most importantly: have fun!) If your BDSM roleplay ideas involve furniture or props, get them ready and place them nearby. You can dim the lights or light candles to create a more erotic atmosphere, too. These may seem like small touches, but they’ll do wonders in taking you (and your mind) out of your bedroom and into the scene and roles you’re playing. Let the roleplay fantasy sex begin Go forth and have the best, safest BDSM roleplay and fantasy sex of your lives. Don’t worry too much about exactly what you’re going to say when you’re in your roles. Just go with it and improvise (within your boundaries, obvs). Remember to relax. As Annabelle says, “If you get the giggles don’t worry – it’s meant to be fun, after all!” Once you get going, you *must* keep checking in with yourself and your partner(s). Dr Barker has a really handy way of thinking about consent during BDSM and roleplay fantasy sex. They explain it like you’re going deeper down into water. Use a scale of 0-10 to explain how deep in the roleplay you’re feeling. If you or your partner feels too deep, encourage each other to come up to shallower waters so you can check in safely. If it all gets a bit too much, encourage each other to breathe, feel your body and the room around you, to drink water and get some food. Roleplay fantasy sex can make you hungry! BDSM and roleplay fantasy sex ideas Police officer If you’re trying bondage for the first time and want an entry-level roleplay fantasy sex idea, play the roles of a police officer and arrestee (don’t forget the handcuffs, duh). Strangers Strangers is one of the most basic but popular roleplay sex fantasies, so meet your partner at a bar and pretend to get to know each other for the first time. Getting a hotel is strongly advised. Doctor and patient This one’s a classic for a reason and can be as beginner or kinky as you like. It’s especially erotic if you have a medical fetish. Hot celebrity couple Always fancied someone famous and wondered what it would be like to have sex with them? Assuming the roles of a celebrity couple whose sex life you admire is one way to get *a lot* closer to them. Vampire and mortal Don’t ask me why, but vampires are sexy AF – always have been, always will be. Maybe it’s the whole nibbling the neck thing? Werewolf and human If you’ve ever read werewolf erotic fiction, you’ll know why this one made the list. Like the idea of being overpowered by a strong, hairy beast? Yeah, it’s a whole thing. Owner and pet You’ve probably heard of the puppy play, which is becoming more (mainstream) and popular than ever – I mean, the gear alone is super hot. Get on all fours, bark, growl, and have your partner take you for a walk. Did you know you can incorporate roleplay into tantric massage? If you’ve ever had a sexual fantasy involving a masseuse, the good news is tantric massage can very easily be worked into your roleplay. Annabelle says massage roleplay works best at the beginning of Tantric sex. She recommends taking it in turns to undress each other and massaging your partner’s erogenous zones as they’re uncovered. Dr Mafe Peraza Godoy, clinical sexologist and founder of The Intimology Institute, says assuming a more dominant role during roleplay fantasy sex releases a lot of energy, as well as giving your trust to your partner. She suggests sitting in your partner’s lap, gazing deep into their eyes and synchronizing breath while you take the time to really explore your partner’s body. Author: PAISLEY GILMOUR - Sex & Relationships Writer Source: karmatantric.com/roleplay-sex-guide Image Source: karmatantric.com/roleplay-sex-guide.jpg

We review the top 5 Swingers Websites Our likes, dislikes, accessibility as well as the ease of use and costs vs free trials. We find many of these sites are demographically challenged, as some may be wildly popular in your area others may not. We highly recommend signing up for free trials to get a sense of the number of members in your part of the country and see what's happening in your area by way of meet & greets parties and events. We also review the social aspects and accessibility of each site. Individual pricing varies for each site so we'll refrain from posting the actual price as they may change. We will however, discuss the value of what you pay for vs. what you get for free. SDC - Swingers Date Club SDC Swingers Date Club, the worlds largest and oldest swingers site, has long been one of our favorites. Not only do they take swinging seriously, they get you involved in many ways the other sites do not. We admit it's a little tricky to navigate, partly because there is so much to see and do; it can be overwhelming sometimes. We've been using SDC for over 10 years and we are still discovering new things. The fact that SDC is a global site means you can travel the world and experience an SDC party or event. Due to amazing work by the SDC staff, the majority of the sites members are "real" couples. You can be rest assured that you won't be hassled by pushy single men and fake internet trolls. Those get weeded out quickly by the attentive staff. Be aware of the sites rules as these are for your protection and safety. Costs: SDC has tons of free informative content available right on their website. SDC is renowned for lifestyle related travel destinations around the world. The dating portion of SDC offers a free trial membership with paid plans ranging from monthly plans to lifetime memberships. Paid memberships have access to all of the site features and improves your chances to meet other members in the lifestyle. Free Trial - Offers a free trial membership - Click the banner above to go to the site. Navigation - Takes awhile to get the hang of it. Social Platform - You have options to "friend" other members and interact via instant messenger. Key features: Mobile App Parties, Clubs and Events calendar Travel Events and Calendar Member contests and perks Speed dating Instant messenger Access to lifestyle groups in your area. Drawbacks: Tricky to navigate. The chat rooms are light, there is no real social platform on this site. Our favorite extras: We love the bold "who's online" feature, and the access to unlimited knowledge base from multiple credible sources. It's the ultimate site for lifestyle related travel destinations and events as well as lifestyle related businesses. The staff is extremely hands on and helpful, which we find important in a lifestyle website. The site is well regulated so you won't find a bunch of fake profiles and trollers on this site. Kasidie Kasidie is unique among the top swinger sites as it offers a powerful social platform. One of the biggest perks is that it is free to use and does offer a free elite membership trial. The site boasts itself as a social community for sexually adventurous couples in the lifestyle. The meaning of the word Kasidie represents open minded uninhibited people who enjoy life to the fullest. You would need to create a detailed profile to access this website, which gets into the nitty gritty of your likes and dislikes. It may feel intrusive at first but you'll find this information useful when viewing other members profiles. Kasidie has a familiar look and feel to it, we find it's pretty easy and fun to navigate. It has all the features of a social media platform such as the ability to; like, chat, friend, flirt and even invite other members to join you at a party! You can give other members "shout outs" and post on each others wall just like on facebook. Discreet mode lets you view the site, while hiding explicit photos. This is to our knowledge, a unique feature to Kasidie. There is a lot of freedom that comes with using this site as you are not very restricted as to things you can do on here. For example, if you have a favorite website or maybe like to chat using other platforms, you can share these with other members without retribution. This site is predominantly couples which is also refreshing. Though this site is pretty lax, we've not seen any issues with fake profiles and pushy males. Costs: Kasidie is free to use with access to most of the sites features, including the ability to communicate with other members. You can upgrade to the Elite status for a low monthly fee or lifetime membership. As with any dating site, other members tend to take paid members more seriously than free members. This shows a level of commitment and that you are not just trolling the site. Free Trial - Offers an "Elite" status free trial membership. Click the banner above to go to the site. Navigation - Easy and fun Social Platform - Has all of your favorite social features, including options to "friend" members, like, comment, and interact via instant messenger. This makes Kasidie the top of our list as far as social aspects are concerned. Key features: Local and National Lifestyle Communities Lifestyle Related Businesses Forums Parties and Events Discreet Viewing feature Rendezvous Facebook style social platform Mobile App Instant messenger Parties and Events calendar Travel and events Member contests and perks Access to lifestyle groups in your area. Drawbacks: So far the bulk of the demographics are on the West Coast United States, where this site was founded. Our sources at Kasidie tell us that they are actively pushing East which is exciting! Our favorite extras: Easy to navigate, we love the Facebook style social media platform. You can see what your friends are up to, get event invites and updates on what's happening. So much to do on this site to keep you coming back. The staff is friendly and helpful and very active in the lifestyle. We find that to always be a plus! SLS - Swing Lifestyle We have a love hate relationship with Swinglifestyle commonly known as SLS. We love the fact that it's a popular site, it's easy to use and has a clean no frills platform. SLS is undoubtedly a hook up site. It's a hop on/hop off swinger site for getting dates, meeting new members and party central ranging from house parties to mega hotel takeovers. The chat rooms, forums and groups are very active here. They boast an impressive collection of party hosts and events to the point where it can get over whelming at times. The party platform lumps house parties and legitimate lifestyle events together so it can be tough to discern between the two, which can be confusing for new members. There is no doubt that you'll find a party or hook up on this site. Members come and go often so you may get a few wham bam thank you ma'ams during your tenure on SLS. Single males and trollers are pretty rampant on this site, so it can be a bit of a task to weed through to find a match. Fortunately, members are pretty active with certifications or "Certs" on this site. A Cert is kind of like a review for members, so if your looking for legitimacy in a member you should start there. The downside, is that if you're new you should definitely get a cert fast and have your profile up to snuff with content and plenty of G-Rated pictures. That's pretty much where it ends for us, SLS struggles with it's identity regularly. The site rules and platform are in a constant state of flux. Being on the site for over 10 years, we never know from one day to the next what changes to expect when we log on. It's notorious for Facebook style jail terms and does not discriminate between new members and old. Even an incorrectly posted "hot date" can get you a light sentence in SLS jail. The site is very glitchy with its constant changes. Recently to the dismay of many members, it has eliminated it's email system, leaving only it's chat/IM feature as the primary form of communication. This makes it difficult to keep track of conversations you may be having with other members of the site. We find most members migrate to another chat platform once making a connection which is another no no that can get you some jail time. The staff is non existent here. You're pretty much on your own, unless you break a rule as aforementioned. Costs: This site is affordable. SLS is pretty much useless if you do not have a paid membership. They offer a free trial with all access, and you can purchase a monthly to lifetime membership at a reasonable costs. We recommend the upgrade, as membership definitely has its privileges. You cannot beat having a lifetime membership to this site. Free Trial - SLS offers a free trial. Click the banner above to go to the site. Navigation - Very easy Social Platform - None to speak of, chat rooms are pretty dry. No real way to let members know you're interested, other than reaching out to them via messenger. No friends list to see who you may have in common. Update: They have added a community based, interactive wall. It seems a bit confusing; but it's a start along the lines of adding the social aspect this site was lacking. They've added a friends list as well pending future changes in true SLS style. Key features: Mobile App SLS Radio station Parties, Clubs and Events calendar Forums Travel Events and Cruises Hot Date Calendar Access to lifestyle groups in your area. Drawbacks: Difficult mail / messaging system can make it hard to keep track of conversations you are having with different members. This site is very buggy and can be frustrating sometimes. It's also difficult to decipher legitimate events from some guy with a hotel room calling himself the "Red Room Parties". That can be scary for some as you may not know what you are walking into. Rules, Rules, Rules! We think they are extremely important in the lifestyle but SLS is over the top in all the wrong places. Our favorite extras: Easy hook ups, easy to navigate. This sites simplicity makes it a go to site for a quick hook up, since there isn't much in the way of distractions. Affordable lifetime membership option is the way to go on this site. If you're in it for the long term, you should definitely add SLS to your list of sites to join. If you're looking to add a single male or female to your mix, you'll have no trouble here. Be sure to check their "certs" first. AFF - Adult Friend Finder Friend finder is more the generic "Fuck a person in your area tonight" website that you see ads for on porn sites. Adult Friend Finder or AFF as it's known to users, is the most legitimate of the so called fuck sites. "Let's just put it out there that it's safe to click the ads on this site as we personally use anything we advertise on our site" ;) Though technically not a swingers site (in our opinion). Let's not mince words, AFF is more of a fuck site with plenty of real swingers in the mix. SLS, SDC and Kasidie are predominately for couples, have clean profiles and promote meeting friends in the lifestyle. AFF is raunchy if that's your thing. If you are an exhibitionist and looking to flaunt your stuff, then this is your site. If you're looking to go hardcore, no doubt you'll find what you are looking for here. If you're into gangbangs, fucking on your webcam and a never ending barrage of single men. This might be the site for you. There are also tons and tons of single guys, if that's what you're looking for. Though that may sound great, you may find it difficult to navigate the hundreds of dick pics to find a real mature guy who is actually willing to meet. Be careful not to get sucked into hours and hours of sex chat that goes nowhere. It's why most people are on this site. The prospect of swinging appeals to the masses, but doing it as opposed simply chatting it up can really bog you down. AFF has many great features and offers a whole network of websites to fit your lifestyle choices; including sites for Seniors, Millionaires, a fetish themed site known as Alt to name a few. The chat and cam rooms are off the charts! You'll never be bored on this site. AFF is sure to get your libido pumping, the issue with that is you may be doing a lot of pumping yourself. The constant sex chat, web cams, nude model cams ads for fuck games and porn sites. This can lead to more masturbation and less dating. Costs: Pricey. Though you can do a lot of flirting for free on this site, it's not worth it for moderate swingers unless you are really into its extra features. Free Trial - AFF offers a free trial, click the banner above to go to the site. Navigation - Pretty cut & dry. Social Platform - You can flirt, chat, like and post on friends walls. You can also have a friends list and 'hotlist' your favorite members. Key features: Cupid Matches Chat and Webcam rooms Tons of members Flirt and hotlist feature Tip and gift members Adult communities and groups Drawbacks: No events calendar which is essential for serious swingers. Way too many dick pics, pornographic photos, videos and ads. Expensive to maintain, there is no lifetime membership option so you'll always have to pay to use its gold features. Trolls, bots and Pic collectors galore, beware. Our favorite extras: It's a no holds barr site, plenty of sex and nudity to keep you occupied. We've never been bored on this site and there is never a lack of new members. We love the 'hotlist' and flirt features, the chat rooms are always active day and night. Fet - FetLife Oh boy! I have to admit Mr DV8 was on the fence with this site for a long time. We joined FetLife better known as FET, years before we actively used it. We won't classify this one as a predominantly Swingers site, but this is definitely one you should have in your arsenal if you are a swinger. If you've been searching for an alternative to Craigslist this is the site for you. FET bills itself as a social networking site for the BDSM and Fetish community, but it's way more than that. You have to get your footing on this site to find what you're into. Once you do, you're in for one hell of a ride. For us, Fet appealed to Mrs DV8's love for the BDSM aspect of the lifestyle. Fetishes such as spanking, flogging, roleplay, doms/submissives rule this site. I was more apprehensive basically having the biased opinion that this site was just for the BDSM community and had little to offer anyone who wasn't hardcore in that aspect of the lifestyle. That is until I dug deep into the groups on this site; to find no matter what you're into or what you didn't even know you were into, it's here and then some. Nothing is taboo on this site so it can be over the top. If you've ever had a sexual fantasy (we all do) this is the mecca of fetish sites, it all here. Not much along the lines of phonies and trollers, these people are the real deal. This site is definitely for more advanced Swingers. The site it socially driven, a little like Kasidie, but not as advanced. FET is simplistic in design and offers a wealth of information. It's a little tricky to navigate when trying to find the locals, not much in the way of regional or random searches. You more or less have to stumble upon what you are looking for. Costs: Free! The site is free to use with 90% of it's features available to it's community. They do encourage a small $5 per month donation, which is a drop in the bucket for what you get in return. There are interesting ways to donate including using old gift cards You'll have to see for yourself. Navigation - Relatively simple to navigate though it can be tricky to figure out how to find what you are looking for. Its search feature is pretty generic. Social Platform - FetLife is a highly interactive, community driven, website. It has all the basic features of a social media site. The ability to love pics, posts and make comments, join groups friend members & more. Key features: Free to use Tons of Lifestyle Groups Events Interactive social platform Mobile App - Android Every Kink imaginable Drawbacks: FET's generic search feature makes it tricky to find what you are looking for. This can make this site extremely frustrating. There is no place to post private pics, what ever you post is for all to see. No real way to be discreet on this site. It's not for everybody, we do not suggest this site for newbies just getting started. Some members can be very standoffish especially if they are hardcore in the BDSM lifestyle. You wont get that warm newbie welcome you'll find on the swinger sites. Our favorite extras: Groups! So many groups, it's like going down the rabbit hole. Love the social platform! Once you are familiar with the site is fun to use. Explore every kink imaginable, no trolls or fakes that we've noticed. We find this is uncommon for a free site, but we won't complain. MEWE - Social Chat Site While not a swingers site per se, we've found that this is a great platform for chatting with other like minded adults aka swingers. It's mainly a mobile app but can be used on your desktop as well. It's a little hard to navigate starting out, but once you get the hang of it, it's pretty easy to use. There are many swingers chat groups on here, the catch is they are not so easy to find. Once you get plugged in you're in and you'll get invited to more chat groups as you go. Beware! Don't put yourself out there on this site. We recommend discreet screen names and no head shots. Stick with body shots. This site is loaded with trolls and pic collectors. Try and stick with private / regulated chat groups when you find them. Nudity is frowned upon according to MEWE's user agreement, but we've yet to see anyone get booted in the three years we've been on this site. There's nudity and a lot of it. It's a fun way to stay in touch with your swinger friends and a great way to chat with and interact with like minded individuals. It's free to use with a paid option, so there is no reason not to try it. With the demise of many other social platforms for adults to use, we found mewe to be a sweet spot in the unforgiving environment of social sites with strict jail terms for any sexual related activities. Check out our MEWE chat group here. mewe.com/join/theswingersplayground So there you have it. Something for everyone. If you have questions before you take the leap in to the Swing lifestyle We strive to be as accurate as possible if you find something we missed let us know. drop us a line at 'ask dv8' thedeviatenetwork.com/education Mr & Mrs DV8

xbiz.com - Lyn Bimey - Dec 31, 2019 NEW YORK — The Deviate Network has released of DV8 Dare Role Play Erotic Coupons Game, Couples Edition. The new game is the latest installment in the line of DV8 Dare Erotic Card Games, which cater to “alternative lifestyles.” "We've often felt that we needed to create a version of our product line that caters to everyday couples of all sexual orientations looking to ‘spice things up’ in their relationships,” The Deviate Network said. “We first introduced role play scenarios into our DV8 Dare Fetish Edition Game and wanted to expand on that end of the lifestyle, while still making the game accessible to everyone.” The game features top role-play scenarios in a 12-month format to encourage couples to try new scenarios each month of the year. It offers one "mild" and one "on the wild side," which takes it a step further as a Dare. “We encourage players to have fun, be creative and take their role play out of the house, and included suggestions for ‘sexy accessories’ and props to spice up each scenario,” the company said. “We feel the key to a successful role play is to really get into character.” The game also features Dominant and Submissive role reversals to encourage players to see how far they're willing to take it. Couples can take turns playing the Dominant or Submissive parts in the roles in order to explore their deepest fantasies with no limits. All Deviate Essentials products are available for wholesale and retail distribution Available at devierboutique.com #dv8dare #dv8roleplay #dv8essentials #dv8lifestyle

The Lifestyle stigma. Alternative Lifestyles~ according to the Urban Dictionary it means, Any socially-unconventional lifestyle, esp. sexual. To me, alternative lifestyles are only seen as un-conventional because mainstream culture views them as immoral. We are taught from a very early age that sexuality is taboo and not a topic of open discussion; that an individual has to fit between the guidelines of social or religious acceptance in order to be "normal". Our society dictates that a relationship should only be between a man and a woman; that gender assignment is determined at birth, and that it is obscene and indecent to have sexual interactions with anyone else but your spouse or partner. Forging ahead! Until recently, I saw that we were gaining strides for acceptance; reaching milestones, however small, and that people were willing to educate themselves to be more tolerant of the fact that a persons right to choose their sexuality should be based on an individual decision, and not what society deems as appropriate. Our current and proposed laws feel like a direct attack of a persons right to chose their own lifestyle, and in their truest forms, are facing severe discrimination.. An interference against our sexual freedom to love who we want and to be who we are. Educating the masses. I support healthy sexual exploration and experimentation between consensual adults. I believe that sexuality is up to an individual and is subject to change at different stages of a persons life. I believe that society should not determine what is right for you and what should make you happy. Alternative lifestyles fall into such a wide range of different likes, curiosities and fetishes. Due to the lack of education and understanding about the topic, unless you are willing to open your mind and hear the alternate side of it, we will never be free, truly free to express who we are and what we need in order to be fulfilled. How can you help? It's simple get involved, donate, share, spread the word, it's our lifestyle. Let's protect it. Visit www.thedeviatenetwork.com/ala Source: THE DEVIATE NETWORK - Ms DV8 #dv8lifestyle #swinglifestyle #askdv8 #swinging #relationships #sexuality #blogdv8 #sextips #singlemen #ala #alternativelifestyle

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE New Orleans, LA — The Deviate Network, has been nominated for Three lifestyle awards! Including Best Blog for Ask DV8, Best Website social and Best Hotel / Club Parties! "We are so excited to once again be recognized for this pretentious award! "The Annual Lifestyle Awards give recognition to the top lifestyle Parties, Clubs, Conventions, Cruises, Blogs, Resorts, Podcasts, Websites and much more. The winners will be determined by voting by fans of the swinging lifestyle.Each winner will receive a beautiful gold statue that they can display, as well as, a banner they can display on their website announcing them as the 2018 winner." Source annuallifestyleawards.com Don't forget to check out NAUGHTY N'AWLINS July 23rd to 29th 2018 We ask all of our members and fans to come out and vote and keep The Deviate Network the most nominated club in the USA! annuallifestyleawards.com/vote The Deviate Network - New York #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #dv8dare #dv8pong

A little about us. The Deviate Network started as an adult home parties business; Deviate Parties. We had been regularly attending lifestyle events when we decided to start hosting our own events around the New York area. Since then, we've traveled all over the East coast and the US promoting swingers lifestyle events, education and awareness, we added our Deviate Essentials Product line and created The Deviate Network. So what is the DV8 Dare™ Swingers Edition? This edition is the first ever erotic dare game created exclusively for Swingers, by Swingers. DV8 Dare™ Swingers Edition features two decks; Icebreakers and Wild Dares, a blindfold, and very easy instructions to follow, which allows players to quickly get to know each other better for a naughty night in. That's the official answer. DV8 Dare has gone unmatched since it's inception in 2015. It is now used worldwide by top swinger clubs, resorts, travel companies and event hosts from Toronto to Spain. So why is it the ultimate ice breaker? DV8 dare was created over five years of hosting lifestyle events. We were on the lookout for a game that wasn't complicated, mature, sexy and was conducive to play. After all, the end result should be getting to know the other guests a little (or a lot) better. Why was it created? The tough part was creating a game that was fun, but mature. When we say mature we mean, we've played many dare games in our search for the perfect icebreaker to get thing started. None where geared towards swingers and all were immature and not conducive to play. For example, many dares we've played were pretty off the wall and not sexy by any means. We've encountered dares that asked players to run around outside naked, act like a monkey, or make a brain out of their testicles. (really, we're not joking). That's not going to get a group of mature adults in a sexy mood. Most games were very complicated and players lost focus quickly, which was another downer for trying get things going. Starting off the game with 'give the player next you a blowjob' may seem like fun, but that's just not how swinger / lifestyle parties start. The lifestyle is about making a connection with the other couples, not dive right in without somehow breaking the ice. The other challenge was to create a mature, easy to play game that was sexy and also progressive. Imagine playing a game where the first card drawn was "Strip naked" and none of the subsequent cards had anything to do with anyone else getting naked. Well it happened with one of the games we played at a party. A single female drew the first card: "strip naked". Sounds like the game was off to a great start right? No. She ended up being the only one to draw that card, and sat through the entire game naked while everyone else was fully or mostly clothed. Though she was a trooper, not everyone else would be. The Ultimate Icebreaker is created. We knew we had our work cut out for us: The problem we had to solve was how to make the game progressive, so players could ease into it. The game needed to have all of the elements we wanted; easy to play, high end, sexy and mature. No naked monkeys, no awkward situations and most of all it had to create a sexy playful environment. Lets break the ice. We created the Ice Breaker Deck, as we call it phase one. The Ice breaker deck starts out mild; cross touching, stripping, making out, ect. The game encourages you to do this with anyone but your partner. Hence, getting to know the other players. In most cases, you get to choose the player you want to get to know a little better. Each player gets pass cards allowing the option to test their boundaries yet stay in their comfort zone. We also solved the problem of a player being the only one naked by allowing players to choose who needs to shed their digs. Oh it gets wild. The wild deck, as we call it Phase two. Now that everyone is loose, comfortable and mostly naked, the wild deck really gets things going. ;) This deck includes pass cards, with a catch; you now have to pass your dare to another player. The wild deck is just that. "WILD". Lots of sexy dares: anything goes, erotic blindfold, and we left a few open ended dares. It allows you to use your imagination to see how far you and your partner are willing to go. (Oh and you may want to google ski poling) The Deviate Network - New York #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #dv8dare

Dear DV8 "'We really love all kinds of sex and we love the lifestyle. But we want to do things with like minded couples as apposed to just "SEX". Does this mean we're not real swingers?" yes2swing - Texas Dear yes2swing "The term 'Swinger' is slang for someone who leads an uninhibited lifestyle. There are so many levels of swinging per se, so it's not just about sex. To me, swinging is the ability to be yourselves and to openly share your sexuality and fantasies with others, without judgement or jealousy. You may get turned on at the thought of full swap, soft swap, same room, separate room, or voyeurism.. it all falls under the same category; swinging" - Mrs DV8 " The popular misconception about swinging as that it's all about "SEX". The swing lifestyle is anything but that; the lifestyle is about much more than just swinging. Making friends in the lifestyle is about sharing experiences with like minded people. It's more than just about sex, think of it as friends with benefits. We have many friends in the lifestyle that we travel with, go to parties with and even been to their weddings, yet never or rarely played with. They are close friends that we have much in common with, including sex. The answer is yes you are a swinger, go out and enjoy everything the lifestyle has to offer." - Mr DV8 Have a question for ask dv8? Let us know #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #askdv8

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE LOS ANGELES — The Deviate Network, has been named a finalist nominee for the adult industry’s awards event of the year, the 2017 XBIZ Awards, presented by MyFreeCams.com, scheduled for Thursday, Jan. 12, in Los Angeles. DV8 Dare Pong is excited to announce it has received a nomination in the Pleasure Products Category, for Adult Game of the Year. It is the fourth installment of the New York based company's high-end product line of erotic games for adults. DV8 Dare Pong is a portable beer pong table cover that can be placed over any existing pong table, turning beer pong into DV8 Dare Pong. The game features 20 unique dares from mild to wild, vibrantly printed on a high-quality, wrinkle-free cloth table cover. Four players play the game as they would beer pong, with a sexy twist. “We have worked very hard to make our product line a reality, and are very proud to have our DV8 Dare Pong Game nominated”, said Kimberly, co-creator of The Deviate Network’s, Deviate Essentials Product Line. The XBIZ Awards honors the very best in the business of sex and is set to fill the largest ballroom in Los Angeles — the Westin Bonaventure Hotel — where the adult film legend Ron Jeremy will be featured as master of ceremonies for the red-carpet gala. The Deviate Network - New York #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #dv8dare #dv8pong

Though I’ve been working with swingers for ten years, each show presents a learning experience. Some couples dive in headfirst and immediately establish themselves as lifelong swingers while others retreat and conclude that they’d rather remain monogamous. Here are some lessons I’ve learned from real-life swinger couples: 1. Swinging isn’t for everyone: Just like monogamy, swinging isn’t a universally successful experience - nor is it a panacea for a failing relationship. Some people are simply more inclined toward open relationships and others thrive on a lifetime of serial monogamy. Some couples find that swinging improves their relationship, but others find it exacerbates existing problems. Just as you should consider the potential positive and negative outcomes of marriage, so too should you weigh the pros and cons of swinging. You may even want to make individual lists and discuss them together. 2. Pressure is the antithesis to pleasure: I often receive inquiries with regard to how one can convince their partner to swing. The short answer: you can’t. If you have to talk your partner into swinging for the first time, you’re likely destined for disaster. In an ideal world, swinging brings you closer together, but this outcome is near impossible in the absence of mutual desire. Being a bit nervous is normal, but if your partner seems reticent, make your relationship a priority and put swinging on hold until you’re both feeling fully prepared. 3. Rules are absolutely necessary: You’ll often hear experienced swingers proclaim that the only rules that matter are your rules and they couldn’t be more correct. You are the experts in your relationship, so although you can learn from relationship experts and more experienced couples, your unique insight and understanding of subjective experiences makes you the ultimate authority. Establishing rules in advance is of paramount importance. Ask and answer as many questions as possible to prepare for a variety of outcomes: Are there sexual activities that are off-limits? What sexual activities are you comfortable engaging in? How will you communicate that you’re (un)comfortable with a particular couple? Do you have a safe word/signal that you can use in case you need to take a break? What would you like your partner to do if you use your safe word/signal? Are you interested in singles, other couples or groups? Would you rather “play” in private or in public? Are you willing to play with the same couple more than once? Are you looking to develop lasting friendships with other couples or simply seeking casual sex? What will you do if your partner is interested in someone else, but you’re not interested in that person’s partner? How will you check in with one another during the experience? How will you meet other couples — online or in-person? And is it acceptable to contact others online alone or only with your partner present? How will you debrief after your experience? Revisit your rules periodically, as your feelings, desires and boundaries might change over time. 4. Vulnerabilities are your greatest strengths As with all sexual and relational experiences, swinging will elicit both positive and negative emotional reactions. Be prepared to talk about them: the good, the bad and the ugly. I find that some couples are so enthralled with the concept of swinging that they sometimes forget that problems can arise. Jealousy, insecurity and fear are normal emotions, so it’s important to acknowledge them. They’re not a sign of a failing relationship and when you talk about undesirable emotions openly and offer your partner feedback and reassurance, they can become sources of strength in your relationship. 5. Voyeurism has its perks If you’re new to swinging, I suggest that you spend some time hanging out at lifestyle clubs or parties with the agreement that you’ll only observe and engage in friendly conversations. Making a pact not to engage in any sexual activities for the few visits can help to alleviate pressure and allow you to familiarize yourself with the scene. Many clubs offer tours for newbie couples and the host couples will likely be willing to answer any questions you may have about the lifestyle. So there you have it – five guidelines for exploring a healthy open relationship. Use this advice to keep the conversation going with your partner. Dr. Jess - Source: ASTROGLIDE #blogdv8 #couplesrelationships #dv8lifestyle #relationships #sexuality #foreplaytips #sextips #swinging #swinglifestyle

Dear DV8 "'Getting out is a big production, we're NOT empty nesters , so entertaining at home is not an option. It's our first time Swinging, if we make a date with a couple where and how do we meet? Do we pre-book a hotel? What happens if they don't show? Our time is precious. " Confused in FL - Florida Dear Confused in FL "The first date can be nerve-wracking and this is an excellent question! I say, it depends. I don't like to be presumptuous, but I do like to be prepared. Is the other couple willing to play on the first date? How far are you traveling? What happens if you meet the couple and there is no connection? These are some things you should consider before you pre-book a hotel room, and most of these questions can be answered before you even meet. Another option is, pre-book the room and if it doesn't work out with the couple, then spend a quality sexy evening alone with your partner without the children." - Mrs DV8 "I still remember our first (other date) We went in with no expectations, we even discussed making the bed before we left just in case. Well, we ended up making the bed with our dates in the living room. Case in point, it's good to be prepared but never set yourself up for disappointment. It's never a waste of time getting out of the house and doing something spontaneous, getting dressed up and feeling sexy for a mysterious night out can be fun if they show and you like them all the better. Make sure you let them know how valuable your time is and if there's a chance they can't make it to let you know in advance. It doesn't hurt to see if there are any meet & greets in your area, it makes for a great meet up spot and a guaranteed great place to meet some new couples in your area. Not a bad fall back plan either ." - Mr DV8 Have a question for ask dv8? Let us know #swinging #dv8lifestyle #relationships #swinglifestyle #sexuality #blogdv8 #askdv8